When we think of love, we think of the happy kind of love, the kind that is the beginning of something beautiful – something that breathes life.
There is, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one. Sometimes, it results in the wedging apart of two who love each other the most. The fact is, this 'feeling' is not enough.
All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because it is not rational. We live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, we may manage to make it work for some time, but the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air. Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do. Because it is an intense emotion, it occasionally leads us to make poor choices. They may be lies we told or hurtful things we said. Our past haunts us. We move from one relationship to the next, hauling the luggage we've accumulated from previous relationships. And sooner or later, they start to unpack. All the demons unravel. When love wounds, it cuts deep. The pain isn’t easily forgotten and cannot be willfully forgotten. Chances are, you both have scars that have never fully healed and will likely never do. You don’t really have any option. You can only hope that the two of you find others to love so you can think about each other less and you don’t have to worry about his happiness anymore. You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old. But that doesn’t mean you will stop loving each other. Some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart.
And so is the darker side of love.
There is, another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It doesn’t signal the beginning of something beautiful, but rather the end of something that might have been beautiful, but will never amount to anything more than what it is.
Love doesn’t always end happily. It doesn’t always result in the joining of two people, the fusing of two lives into one. Sometimes, it results in the wedging apart of two who love each other the most. The fact is, this 'feeling' is not enough.
All those fairytales, all those stories and movies you’ve heard and watched growing up, lied to you. Love is never enough because it is not rational. We live in a world governed by rationality, and while love may be irrational, we may manage to make it work for some time, but the real world always catches up with us and our irrational illusions dissipate into thin air. Then we are left with reality and reality doesn’t always reason the way lovers do. Because it is an intense emotion, it occasionally leads us to make poor choices. They may be lies we told or hurtful things we said. Our past haunts us. We move from one relationship to the next, hauling the luggage we've accumulated from previous relationships. And sooner or later, they start to unpack. All the demons unravel. When love wounds, it cuts deep. The pain isn’t easily forgotten and cannot be willfully forgotten. Chances are, you both have scars that have never fully healed and will likely never do. You don’t really have any option. You can only hope that the two of you find others to love so you can think about each other less and you don’t have to worry about his happiness anymore. You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old. But that doesn’t mean you will stop loving each other. Some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart.
And so is the darker side of love.
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